Hello friends! I know, I’m a day late, but I didn’t want that to stop me from posting. Hey, we need encouragement on Fridays too right!?
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Ephesians 5:22
I recently finished the book Indivisible. It was AMAZING, and that is putting it lightly. It really made me reflect on marriage and the role of a wife and husband. The characters in the book were faced with so much. Darren, the husband, was a minister in the military and served overseas. His wife, Heather, was in the US taking care of their three children, while ministering to wives in their base. It was such a touching story with a powerful message. But back to my point – it made me think about my husband and I. No, he is not serving in the military right now, and yes we are still living together. We do face our own battles however, and while we are not literally continents apart, sometimes we can seem like we are. I won’t get into any of the skeletons in my closet lol, but I will tell you that ALL marriages have their weaknesses. If you think you see the “perfect” couple out there, it’s not real. By this I mean that their marriage is not perfect. I’ve been reminded several times this week that no one really knows what goes on behind closed doors. In other words, you only see couples on the surface.
As a wife, the bible tells me I am to submit myself to my husband. So many people take this verse in so many different ways. My husband’s uncle takes it literally – his wife is to do everything he says, dress the way he says, and even think the way he says. She is not to go out on her own, nor even think of disobeying him. She is essentially at his beck and call. Folks, this is not what God intended. It is not at all supposed to be demeaning.
If you keep reading this chapter, you will notice that God tells husbands that they ought to love their wives. Not mistreat them, not belittle them, not force them into submission. Love.
My job as a wife is to do things that will honor God and my husband. I need to pray for him. I need to put his needs above my own. I need to make sure all of his needs are being met. And if there is ever anything that I think I want to do, but my husband has reservations about, I should immediately change my mind set on it, because I know that my husband has my best interests at heart. When we have a disagreement (Gasp, yes this does happen!), it is my job as a wife to take a step back and try to see my husband’s point of view. Now trust me, I am not perfect at this. I am strong willed and struggle in this. But then Ephesians 5:22 pops into my head. The Holy Spirit reminds me that I need to settle down and talk it out, not yell it out!
Being a wife is hard, but imagine the stress of being a husband! The role of a husband is even greater, as he is to lead the family spiritually. Huge burden! So wives, pray for your husbands. Be gentle with them. Encourage them. Remind them how much you appreciate all the things they do. Ask for AND offer forgiveness. I think you’ll find in doing these things you will have a much better household!
What’s been on your heart this week friends? I hope you’ll share in the comments, and please don’t forget to visit my friends and see what they’re sharing this week!
Nicole @ Christian Fiction Girl
Trisha @ Joy of Reading
Jacquelyn @ A Heavenly Home
Becca @ The Becca Files
Jenny @ Author Jenny Lynn
Gina @ Stories by Gina